The Individualist Personality Type

The Individualist Personality Type

Those possessing the Individualist personality type are acutely self-aware. Sensitive and emotionally honest, these people are incredibly creative and inspired. Their deepest fear is that they have no personal significance.

 

The Achiever Personality Type

The Achiever Personality Type

Are you an Achiever or are you partnered with one? If you or your partner fit into the category of "Achiever", watch for overly ambitious tendencies that can adversely affect what could otherwise be a healthy relationship.

The Perfectionist Personality Type

The Perfectionist Personality Type

The Perfectionist is one of the nine personality types. Also called the Reformer, Perfectionists are rational and principled, as well as purposeful and self-controlled, often to the point of being overly critical of themselves and others. Learn more about this personality type and their impact in a relationship.

Understanding Basic Personality Traits

Understanding Basic Personality Traits

Having a familiarity with ourselves, which includes understanding our personality traits as well as our strengths and weaknesses, helps guide us in our relationship choices.

Multicultural Relationship Advice: Embrace & Celebrate Your Differences!

Multicultural Relationship Advice:  Embrace & Celebrate Your Differences!

Here are some basic rules to follow for those looking for harmony in a multicultural relationship or marriage.

10 Unhealthy Behaviors That Indicate Your Relationship Is Doomed

10 Unhealthy Behaviors That Indicate Your Relationship Is Doomed

An article by The Cheat Sheet looked into the 10 behaviors that indicate an unhealthy (and often doomed) relationship. 

Brad and Angelina: What Can We Learn from Serial Marriage?

Brad and Angelina: What Can We Learn from Serial Marriage?

The recent separation of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie gives us some insights into the importance of self-discovery and learning lessons before moving into the next relationship.

Ask Pam: Advice on a Recent Break Up

I recently received an inquiry on my Facebook page from a woman who had a question about her response to a recent break up. Below is her question and my advice.

"I had been dating this guy for the past six months and he decided to drop the bomb in the middle of a dinner date at a fine dining restaurant. I really felt blind-sided and was so upset he didn't deliver the news in a more thoughtful, intimate and sensitive manner. My emotions got the best of me and I landed a stinging slap across his face and walked out. It was in the city so I took a cab home. While I'ms till resentful of how he handled it, I feel like I should do the mature and responsible thing and apologize for the slap. I don't really feel like calling him so would an apology note via email or regular mail be appropriate?" ~Erika P.

Hi Erika,

Here is my advice: Closure is always good, so sending an email (not a text), is a good idea. With that said, your immediate reaction was understandable, particularly when the news was unexpected and delivered in a public venue and in a very impersonal way. Interestingly enough, guys often think the way to let someone down is over dinner. Perhaps, that seems easiest and best for them, but it's a horrible experience for the receiver. It is, quite frankly, in poor taste. So, I think it is fine for you to write a nice email, explaining that you are truly sorry for your physical reaction to the way in which he chose to announce he was ending your relationship, but that had he been in your situation, he might have acted similarly. Thank him for the good times you have shared over the past six months, wish him well and educate him that for future, when he is wanting to exit a relationship to give the other party the courtesy and respect of doing it in a private place where there can be civil conversation and both persons can part with a better understanding of all of the pros and cons about the relationship, so your next relationships will be better for each of you.

Forgive and move on with three things in mind:

1) Be prepared to go into the next relationship when you feel strong and happy with yourself

2) Watch for red flags early when dating, so they can be addressed.

3) Vet your partner thoroughly for lifestyle similarities, interests, passions and pay close attention to how they treat you and others with whom they come across as your relationship is progressing.

Do you have a question about your relationship? Need some advice?

I would be more than happy to offer guidance. Feel free to email me or post a private message on my Facebook Page

The Four Horsemen of the (Relationship) Apocalypse

The Four Horsemen of the (Relationship) Apocalypse

Throughout his 40 years of relationship research, John Gottman has identified what he calls “the four horsemen of the apocalypse”, four behaviors that are key indicators of a relationship’s demise. This blog outlines these behaviors as well as how to avoid them. 

Arguments versus the Finality of Breaking Up

Arguments versus the Finality of Breaking Up

Every relationship has its ups and downs. Every couple argues. For many of us, it’s clear when a relationship has run its course.  But there seem to be many couples who view every argument as a reason to end their relationship--although they manage to get back together once they’ve cooled off.

"The Greatest of All Time" gives us something to think about

When Muhammad Ali passed away last week, I discovered this video clip of him answering a question that was asked by a little boy many years ago.  The question was, “What will you do when you retire from boxing?”  The Greatest of All Time’s answer was undoubtedly unexpected and stunned the crowd.  Watch this video and listen closely to this interview for just a few minutes.

Recognize These Negative Relationship Behaviors? Here's How to Overcome Them!

Recognize These Negative Relationship Behaviors?  Here's How to Overcome Them!

Relationships are hard work. Often, we and/or our partner fall into behavior patterns that cause resentment and mistrust, ultimately eroding the foundation upon which the relationship is built. Here are 7 negative behavioral traits to be aware of and how to overcome them.